Back to School After Summer: Supporting Your Child Through Transition

For many families, September brings a familiar mix of excitement and challenge. While some children can’t wait to get back into the classroom, others—especially those who struggle with Emotionally Based School Avoidance (EBSA) or who are neurodiverse—may find the return to school overwhelming. If your child attends an alternative provision, or is preparing for a new term in mainstream, you may already be anticipating the bumps in the road.

The good news is: with patience, gentle preparation, and the right strategies, the transition back to school can feel much more manageable.

Rebuilding Routines Gently

Over the summer, routines often drift: later nights, relaxed mornings, and unstructured days are part of the joy of the holiday. But September mornings can feel like a shock to the system.

• Start small: In the week or two before school, bring bedtimes and wake-up times forward gradually.

• Create morning rituals: A calm breakfast, a favourite song, or five minutes of quiet time can help your child ease into the day.

• Use visuals: A simple chart with “wake up, breakfast, get dressed, pack bag” can provide predictability and reduce morning stress.

Understanding EBSA (Emotionally Based School Avoidance)

If your child is anxious about returning, it doesn’t mean they’re being “difficult.” EBSA is rooted in worry and distress. Common signs include tummy aches, headaches, or emotional outbursts before school.

What helps:

• Listen without judgement: Let your child know you believe their feelings are real.

• Break things down: Focus on “the next step” rather than the whole day—sometimes just getting dressed or walking to the school gate is progress.

• Work together: Communicate openly with school or provision staff so your child knows the adults around them are on the same team.

Supporting Neurodiverse Children

For neurodiverse learners, change can feel extra challenging. A new timetable, different teachers, or even the smell of a new classroom can trigger anxiety.

You can support by:

• Sharing information early: Ask the school for timetables, photos of new staff, or classroom layouts in advance.

• Creating a comfort kit: A small toy, fidget tool, or sensory aid can help regulate feelings during the school day.

• Building predictability: Talk through “what to expect” and use visuals, calendars, or countdowns to reduce uncertainty.

Connection Comes First

Above all, remember that relationships and wellbeing come before academics. The first few weeks are about helping your child feel safe, secure, and connected again—not rushing straight back into full performance. A hug, a chat after school, and celebrating the tiny wins can make all the difference.

Final Thought

Every child’s journey back to school is unique. Some will stride in happily, while others will take small steps with lots of support. As a parent, your calm presence and gentle encouragement will be the anchor your child needs. The goal isn’t speed—it’s helping them feel safe enough to learn, in their own time.